15 Valentine Love Quotes For a Loved One.

We all know Valentine is around the corner and once again it’s that time to assure, affirm and show your loved ones how much they mean to you. Spark some romance this season with the right words. If you want to make your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband, or fiancé feel special, sharing a thoughtful reminder of your feelings is a great start. Sending love messages isn’t cliché but an expression of your appreciation towards them.

I have collated some amazing love messages, poems and quotes online and from poets that you can send your loved ones this season. You may choose to be inspired by them and come up with something honest and creative or just copy and paste them. Whatever you decide, for the poems make sure to give credit when sharing. Thank you!

Online Romantic Messages For Her:

• There are two times that I want to be with you: Now and Forever.

• You have gripped my soul with a ferocity reserved for a castaway clinging to a raft in the middle of the ocean. If my soul is the raft, it is your hold that keeps me afloat. Don’t ever let go. I love you.

• If I could give you one thing in life, I’d give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then would you realize how special you are to me.

• There is an ocean in your eyes, and I can see myself inside of it. It’s impossible to measure the depths of the love that I feel for you.

• You wanna know who I’m in love with? Read the first word again.

Related: Love Is Not Valentine

Online Messages For Him:

• Since the time I’ve met you, I cry a little less, laugh a little harder and smile all the more, just because I have you, my life is a better place.

• You’re my paradise and I’d happily get stranded on you for a lifetime.

• Love teaches you until you learn, even if it takes long, it takes you where you belong!

• You bring sunshine into my life! You aren’t the sun, but you’re just as hot.

• When words aren’t enough to tell you how great you’ve been, remind me to come and kiss you.

Love Poems For Him and Her:


your heart, love

contains the world

to be loved by you

is to be loved

by everything

to have your heart

is to have


your heart, love

contains the world.

– Your Heart by Amu Nnadi

(Poem from a field of Echoes book)


my fingers are happiest

when they type

i love you

my lips, trembling

when they utter them.

– My Fingers by Amu Nnadi

(Poem from a field of Echoes book)


“As if you were on fire from within.

The moon lives in the lining of your skin.”

– Pablo Neruda

(100 love sonnets book)


“But I love your feet

only because they walked

upon the earth and upon

the wind and upon the waters,

until they found me.”

– Pablo Neruda


Our love isn’t a fairytale

those type with happily ever after

it isn’t candle light dinners

and scented love letters

it isn’t moonlight kisses

and shiny red roses.

it isn’t a stroll in the park

or pillow fights after dark.

It is how you nursed me to health

when that accident stole my legs

It was you cheering across that stage

when I read my valedictory page

It was being pushed down the aisle

while you stood at the altar with a smile

And when it got hard sometimes

It was you choosing to stay

It was you choosing to pray

It was us choosing us everyday

– Ella Chikezie. 2019©

Did you enjoy this post and what was your favorite quotes and poem? Let me know in the comment section.



How To Create A Vision Board

Welcome to February darlings! It’s a new month and as usual, there are so many expectations, goals and visions for the new month. Today, I’ll be taking you on a new journey to achieving your goals for the month and ultimately, the year. In case you are thinking it’s the second month of the year, and rather too late to set goals for the year/month, I want to tell you that it doesn’t matter! Yes, it doesn’t matter if this is the first quarter of the year or middle of the year, it’s never too late to start all over again, or even set new goals.

So last month I spent time with bloggers from the bloggers advocate and creatives and we each created a vision board. In case you missed it, you can read how I spent my weekend at the TBA vision board party and catch up on all we were up to there. Today, I’ll be sharing my knowledge of how to create a vision board as a way of smashing your goals and living your dream life!

A Vision Board

As I said earlier in my previous post, a vision board is a collage that is created using pictures and phrases from magazines, that focuses on specific goals and visions like career, finance, or love life. It is built on the basis of the law of attraction, which states that the more you continue to focus on specific goals, the more they gravitate towards you.

Work in progress: My Vision Board

In order to create a vision board here are the materials needed:

– A cardboard paper (could be any color, preferably white or black)

– Glue/Gum

– Magazines

– Shimmer/glitter glue (optional)

– Sticky notes

– A pair of scissors

– Beads (for decoration, optional)

– Music (for inspiration)

Creating a Vision Board:

Creating my vision board

Step 1:

Write down your goals on the sticky notes, you can group them into: spiritual goals, career, personal goals, relationship goals, academic goals, financial goals, etc.

Step 2:

Spread your cardboard paper on a plain surface.

Step 3:

Search the magazines for images or phrases that best represents what you hope to achieve and clip these carefully. For example, on my vision board, I put a car image to represent my intentions to learn to drive a car this year.

Step 4:

Apply glue/gum to the pictures and paste them on the cardboard paper making sure that they are well spaced out to avoid it looking clumsy. I suggest that you have a layout in mind before you start gluing. Also, it might be a good idea to put a strong image of your central intention in the middle of the board making sure to leave enough space for other images that may come to mind later.

Step 5:

You can sprinkle glitters on your vision board or decorate using tiny colored beads. Also, add the sticky notes with the written goals/vision on the board.

Step 6:

Clip your vision board on any place where you can easily see it. Preferably, on the wall of your bedroom, kitchen wall etc.

Showing off my vision board at the bloggers advocate vision board party in Lagos.

Please remember that as time moves on, our goals and desires change, so even if you made a vision board in the past, you may want to consider making another one. Also once you create a vision board to help define what you hope to achieve in life, you must work towards your goals but remember that things may not exactly happen the way we imagined.

Did you learn a thing or two from this post? Would you create your own vision board? Let me know in the comment section.


How I Spent My Weekend at The Bloggers Advocate Vision Board Party.

Happy New week darlings and welcome to the last week of January 2019. I am so elated that the month is ending after 10 years! Whew! Finally!

As is well known, the beginning of a new year to a lot of people is significant for making resolutions, writing down goals, and mapping out plans on how to smash these goals. Though for few people like me who naturally are spontaneous, and generally don’t like to get entangled in the conventional “new year, new me” trap, it can be such herculean task writing down our vision, let alone creating a vision board.

Related: 2018: Bigger and Better things to come

However, they say good things come to those who wait and better things come to those who prepare. And since I’ve decided to live a life of intentionality and not one of serendipity this year, I finally put down my vision and goals for the new year on a real, breathing, living vision board! *shakes tambourine* Thankfully, I had the bloggers advocate vision board party pop up last weekend and gleefully took advantage of it.

A vision board

A vision board is a collage that is created using pictures and phrases from magazines, that focuses on specific goals and visions like career, finance, or love life. It is built on the basis of the law of attraction, which states that the more you continue to focus on specific goals, the more they gravitate towards you.

My vision board

The Bloggers Advocate Vision Board Party

This wonderful event held last Saturday afternoon at Illupeju area of Lagos mainland and brought together 12 amazing people, both bloggers and creatives from different parts of Nigeria in a cosy and clean space where we shared intimate conversations, talked about our goals, challenges, and lessons from previous year and the new year, and also created a physical vision board for 2019.

We had an amazing time sharing, interacting, learning, creating, and networking with each other at the event. Our host, Alice and Tofunmi of the bloggers advocate, gave us a worthwhile and life changing experience.

We were also treated to finger foods, confectionaries, drinks and introduced to the yummy world of Mr. Ekpa (New fave alert! Review coming soon)

Finally, as we hugged goodbye we did so with our hands full of goodies specially packaged in a custom made tote bag by Mabeli Inspired

Some of the goodies we received

After everything, I left feeling inspired, renewed, with clarity of purpose and confidence. So, if you wish to smash your goals this year, I suggest that you not just write down your goals, but put it on a vision board and go ahead to slay those goals!

Self styled and ready to slay my 2019 Goalsssss!

By the way if you are in Abuja and you wish to enjoy similar experience like me, the bloggers advocate is hosting a vision board party this Saturday in Abuja! You can attend and thank me later 😉

What are you waiting for? Go ahead and get those goals this year! I’m rooting for you darlings!

With bloggers, Sarah Okolo and Dami from the TBA Tribe.

Would you like to create a vision board or attend a vision board party? Let me know in the comment section

Book Review: The Sin In My Blackness by Nkateko Masinga.

Hello! My black sisters and brothers, how proud are you of your colour?

So, last weekend during my trip to pop beach club, where I had the most relaxing time away from the craziness of work and Lagos. I finally got the opportunity to finish reading one of the books I purchased from last year’s Lagos International Poetry Festival guest, Nkateko Masinga. I’d be reviewing her book, ‘The Sin In My Blackness’ today and I’ll be sharing an excerpt from the book too.


The sin in my blackness is a chapbook collection of twenty-five poems, twenty-three of them which are written by South African born Author, Nkateko Masinga while two are featured poem of her friends Penelope Makgati and Zuki Mqeke. This book deals with the themes of Xenophobia, Black Consciousness, Love and Loss. The Author also appraises Warshan Shire, Tapiwa Mugabe, Nayyirah, and Yrsa Daley-Ward as her source of inspiration.

This book is an honest work that encourages black people to love themselves and be comfortable in their own skin. Also, during a dark time when some black South Africans were said to kill other black foreigners whom they believed were ‘stealing’ their jobs, Nkateko through her poems, rendered her voice against this gruesome act. As seen in one of her poems from the book, “Betrayal”

Betrayal, a poem by Nkateko Masinga

The language is simple and easy to understand. The book also features aesthetic drawings by Thierry Baranzika that makes one conjure clear image in mind. Nkateko uses imagery and metaphors in the most beautiful manner. The book is a pride of Africa that asserts who we are as Africans and the manner in which words are crafted makes it emotionally compelling.

Authors Note:

According to Nkateko, “many articles have been written about the desirability (or lack thereof) of black skin. It breaks my heart that such conversations even need to happen and hence I worry about my unborn black children but I believe one cannot equate desire with value. The fact that something is not desired by someone does not make it any less valuable. I have found beauty in blackness that I am willing to defend, a beauty that I will not allow to be contained or stifled. I refuse to succumb to the notion that I must hide my hair, bleach my skin or make apologies for the way I sound when I speak. There is no shame or sin in my blackness.”

Authors Biography:

Nkateko Masinga is a South African author, publisher, spoken word artist, theatre actress, TEDx speaker, World Economic Forum Global Shaper and 2018 Mandela Washington Fellow. She was born in Mamelodi and completed her schooling at Glenstantia Primary School, The Glen High School and Dansa International College. She went on to study Medicine (MBChB) at the University of Pretoria and was selected to be a member of the Golden Key International Honour Society for her outstanding academic achievements. In 2018 she moved to the United States of America to study Civic Leadership at Wagner College in New York as part of the Mandela Washington Fellowship for Young African Leaders, the flagship

program of the Young African Leaders Initiative (YALI).

In July 2018, South African publication News24 named Nkateko one of the ‘100 Young Mandelas of The Future’ in celebration of what would have been former president Nelson Mandela’s 100th birthday, an accolade created to honour 100 young South Africans who embody the characteristics that Mandela was known for. Nkateko is the author of three poetry collections: ‘The Sin In My Blackness’ (2015). ‘A War Within The Blood’ (2016), and ‘While The World Was Burning’ (2017). She is the founder and managing director of NSUKU Publishing Consultancy, a 100% black-owned company which provides African writers with

access to information and services regarding publishing books.

Her written work is widely celebrated and is published locally and internationally.

A poem: “The sin in my Blackness.”

My blackness is red sirens,

Gunshots two blocks

From your block of flats.

Women on the street in their gowns

Asking “What happened, what happened?”

My blackness mimics tragedy in small towns.

My blackness cannot be contained.

You tried all those years ago and failed.

Look, your hands are stained.

My blackness is flashing lights,

Red tape outside your house.

Orange cones on the road that leads to reconciliation.

But you walk here and find me waiting,

Burdened with the weight of waiting.

But you never come close enough,

So I have to ask:

Does my blackness offend you?

I mean, the colour of my skin,

The texture of my hair…

Do these things offend you?

Do they make you question what God was trying to do

When He created me, as opposed to you?

Does my blackness make you get on your feet

And deliberately choose another seat

Or another place to eat?

Tell me this:

When we meet in town,

Does my blackness earn me a frown

Or even worse, a half-hearted lopsided smile

That lasts a while and disappears?

Because you see, for years

I struggled with my blackness too.

I made alterations to it like you do

When you change my name

From Nkateko to Kate.

I tried to plait my hair

I plaited it tightly against my scalp

Like a forced hug.

Then I covered it with hair

That looks like yours:





And then I realized that your only fault

Is not that you do not look like me

But that you showed me the sin in my blackness.

– Nkateko Masinga.

Travel: A Guide To Visiting Pop Beach Club

Most times, residents of Lagos state are caught up in the hustle and bustle of the city, so much that they often forget to relax and enjoy the good things of life. But this was not the case for me when I got the opportunity to spend time with some amazing bloggers from The bloggers advocate at the perfect getaway destination, Pop Beach Club, located in the heart of Lagos Island, last weekend.

Pop Beach Club

This exotic beach house is situated at both Ilashe and the beautiful Tarkwa Bay. Gracing a generous portion of the coastland, the beach club was built to meet the need of those who wish to escape the hustle and bustle of the city and enjoy more intimate time in the most relaxing and natural environment.

Aerial view of Pop Beach Club Ilashe. Image Source: http://www.popbeachclub.com

The Journey

We set out on this approximately 30 minutes trip via a ferry ride (costs about #500 naira per passenger) from The Lagos state jetty, Ikoyi. (One can also board from Farm House, Lekki) but we unfortunately, couldn’t arrive on time to catch the setting sun.

Some bloggers from The Bloggers Advocate on the ferry ride to Pop Beach Club, Ilashe.

Destination: Pop Ilashe.

However, the first sight that greeted my eyes on arrival were the cabanas by the poolside that was highlighted under the moonlight. I was instantly mesmerized! And I couldn’t wait for daylight to take in the beauty of this place.

Side view of the cabanas by the poolside at Pop Beach Club Ilashe.

Draped in white, the cabanas were about 10 in number and they surrounded a large pool. There were also palm trees surrounding the area that gave off a cool ambiance.

Back view of Pop Beach Club Ilashe.

Surrounding areas of the beach house.

The beach house is bohemian styled with both outdoor and indoor recreational facilities like an indoor tennis court, a volley ball court, a clubhouse, a kitchen and grill spot, two chalets, 4 bathrooms and can accommodate about 38 people.

Cheers to the freaking weekend?

Boiled potatoes and chicken gravy for lunch.

We spent the following morning taking long walks on the white sands of the beach and getting accustomed to sights and sounds of the place.

Taking a stroll in the morning.

I also filmed my first spoken word video with jubtrip at this magical location and I can’t wait to show you guys once it’s out. 😁 I was also a guest on the show “mysteries of delicious Africa” with Jub Trip.

We all love our phones now, don’t we? 😂

Thereafter we had breakfast, played tennis, volleyball, had lunch and went for a long dip in the glorious pool before heading out to the other Pop Beach Club at Tarkwa Bay.

Destination: Pop Tarkwa Bay

After another 20 minutes ferry ride from Ilashe (costs about 300 naira per passenger), we arrived at Pop Beach Club in Tarkwa Bay, before sunset.

Pool area, Pop Beach Club Tarkwa Bay.

This beach house is a mini version of the other branch at Ilashe. Though it has the bohemian signature style of Pop Beach Club, but the interior design is more fun and edgy.

The facilities include: a clubhouse, a pool, 6 cabanas, a mini swimsuit store, 5 double rooms, a kitchen, grill pit, 6 bathrooms and can accommodate about 32 people.

The warm and tranquil ambiance of this beach house is perfect for weekend getaways, get togethers, honeymoon, social gatherings and for writers/artists like me it’s the right place for residency programs.

Price Listing

  1. Villa hire at Ilashe for a day costs #540,000 naira.
  2. Villa hire at Tarkwa Bay costs #480,000 naira.
  3. Chalet in Ilashe costs #60,000 naira.
  4. Speed boat charter costs #50,000 naira.
  5. The double room at Tarkwa Bay costs #30,000 naira

Fun Fact!!!

  • There’s an ongoing 30% slash on the prices so hurry up and book Here while offer lasts!
  • Also, you can go along with your favorite books, games, and even foodstuff if you like. There’s a professional chef to cook your meal in a safe environment. There’s also a masseuse at Ilashe branch if you want a massage.
  • Wear comfortable flats or loafers when coming here cos it’s a sandy place and you want need comfort shoes!
  • Airtel and MTN networks are more likely to work here than other networks.
  • You can either pay 200 naira gate pass at Tarkwa Bay front gate and walk a short distance to the beach house or pay nothing at the back gate and walk a 10 minutes distance to the beach house.
  • There are treated nets to keep mosquitoes away, so there’s no cause for alarm! 😉

So what are you waiting for to plan that trip?

Would you love to visit this place soon? Let me know in the comment section.


Movie Review: Flat 3B. BukaFedGeeks Is In Town Serving a Tray Full of Drama and Suspense!


Rumour has it that Nollywood actress, Linda Ihuoma Ejiofor Suleiman, is playing lead role in the new web series, “Flat 3B”.

‘Flat 3B’ is a three episode per season anthology series, created by showrunner and uber talented director, Victor Sanchez Aghaowa.


Season 1 Episode 1 (STUCK-ED):

Starts with Nneka, played by Linda Ejiofor, waking up semi-naked to find a strange apron clad hunk, Niyi, played by Mawuli Gavor, cooking her breakfast. She is in confusion as to how she got there and can’t seem to remember anything from the previous night.

As the drama unfolds and the dialogue continues between the two, Nneka is thrown off by the irksome and seemingly unbothered Niyi who seems determined to impress her with his culinary skill, good looks, and witty banter. We are soon caught in a web of suspense as things don’t look like they seem.

If anything, this 17 minutes episode will leave you with questions, though at first glance it looks like your regular fairytale love story waiting to happen but as we are drawn to the end of episode one, we are assailed with more questions, panic and doubt.

The setting is your conventional setting but the plot is twisted and intriguing enough to leave you at the edge of your seat. As usual, Director Aghaowa knows how to command and hold an audience attention and for a first web series, he has done so with a take no prisoner confidence.

The cinematography is sharp, the scripting is mad, and the actors came ready!

Looking for what to do now? Go on and watch here:


Article: Tega Cross Rubrics Of Lovemaking


Gladys Bivbere Oghenetega who is also known as Tega Cross is a poet-performer, a spoken word artist and Voice over artist.

In March,2018, her poem “Songs of Ecstasy” was shortlisted for the Korea-Nigeria Prize for Poetry. Also, “You are your Mother’s Daughter”, a poem that addresses sickle cell anemia in a most profound way was published in Ake Review,2018 edition.

She emerged a poetry slam finalist in both War of Words Nigeria and Abuja Literary Slam, 2018.

Tega Cross is audacious in her expressions of the realities of human existence.

Related Post: Feature: Edwina Neofloetry, “My works are simple yet powerful”

Her poem ” Rubrics of Lovemaking” is a simple spiritual guide to love making for couples as it is more spiritual than physical. According to her,love making is as old as humanity.

” poem is a metaphor for the Undiluted expression of the perfect love between the Spirit of God and man” in its original state.

She believes that through a deep camaraderie with The Creator of Creatives, the utmost depth of art can be achieved.

She is a lover of God

and children

and love

and poetry.

For Rubrics of Lovemaking, click Here

Event Review: Born In Africa Festival (BAFEST) 2018


If there’s ever a time to be alive in Lagos, it’s during the end of the year, when people are trapped in the buzz of Christmas and New year festivities. For most people living in Lagos, it’s common knowledge that organizations, multinationals, and companies often take advantage of the season to celebrate and appreciate their staff and loyal customers by entertaining them with events and free shows.

This was also the case at the just concluded Born in Africa Festival (BAFEST). A one of a kind arts and cultural festival produced by Live Spot in partnership with Access Bank and other notable organizations as a way of rewarding loyal fans and customers and celebrating talents in Africa. BAFEST 2018 saw a large gathering of customers, fans, employees, employers, family and friends enjoy the fusion of art, music, fashion, and film from different parts of Africa at the festival.

Held at the Eko Atlantic City, the event kick started on the morning of December 16th, 2018, with an Art exhibition by renowned Nigerian Artistes; Isaac Emokpae, Tolu Aliki, Uche Edochie, Olumide Onadipe, Obi Chigozie, and Ibe Ananaba.

Admiring the artworks of Uche Edochie.

An artwork by Tolu Aliki.

An artwork by Olumide Onadipe.

Selfie moment with Isaac Emokpae.

Related Post: Lagos International Poetry Festival: A feast of Art, Poetry and Conversations.

Then a fashion exhibition and film screening held simultaneously at the same location, leaving people with more options of events to attend. Most of the films screened at the festival were short films from the second edition of the accelerate filmmakers project. The films screened were Thorn, Wrong Con, Wallflower, The Wall, Stuck, Mmachi, and Kasala.

Cross section photo of the screening room during the festival.

Some of the accelerate filmmakers at the festival.

Soon after the screening and art/fashion exhibition, people filed in to the venue for the music concert that had many Nigerian and African A-list musicians like Dbanj, Timaya, Yemi Alade, Sho Madjozi (SA), Awilogomba (Ivory Coast), Tiwa Savage, Flavour, Olamide, Kiss Daniel, Falz and Burna Boy in energetic performances.

Some of the dancers on stage during the festival’s opening performance.

The music concert was infused with a fashion show that had top designers around Africa, like Torlowei, Tiffany Amber, Millen Magase, Oluchi Onuigbo Orlando, and David Tlale display their latest collection.

Tiwa savage during her performance.

Falz doing the Zanku dance during his performance.

Hosts for the night was Shody Tha Hypeman and Dotun Tha energyghad. The duo both locked down the show with their sensational and energetic dance moves that had everyone on their feet. On the wheel of steel was DJ Crowd controller.

Related Post: Event Review: Art Takes a New Dimension at Tribefest

Dbanj during his performance.

However, the highlight of the day was an enthralling performance by some hooded Asian guys/ladies in black, that were suspended in the air, and drumming uniformly with so much gusto. Everyone kept wondering who they were and literally had their hearts in their mouth all through the performance. Thank God there weren’t any casualties lol as these guys displayed their talents with ease and perfection.

The hooded drummers during their electrifying display.

A lucky winner also went home with a brand new Kia Rio from Kia motors during the raffle draw.

People were kept refreshed with H20 drinks and chapman at the film screening. For me I had a good time at the festival and I look forward to the next edition with bated breath!

Event Review: Art takes a new dimension at the Tribe Fest 2018


The maiden edition of charity Art and Cultural Festival named “Tribe Fest,” organized by Executives Initiative, an NGO established by young individuals who are committed to nation building and giving back to society, recorded a huge success last month.

Some models with their body art posing for the camera.

Held at the modern Johnson Jakande Tinubu (JJT) park in Ikeja, Lagos, the festival included activities like speed painting, Art exhibitions, games, Spoken word poetry, body art, fashion parade, music, dance, Trade fair/bake sales, and lots of food and drinks.

A model posing for the body art

Related Post: Lagos International Poetry Festival

The festival kicked off the first day with fashion parade and Body art and saw a large gathering of people in attendance. Then there were Art exhibition and games.

Artist, Nurudeen Popoola working on canvas during the speed painting competition.

The following day, similar activities continued with more fun activities added to the menu. There was speed painting competition, bake sales, music, dance, spoken word, food and games.

One of the paintings on display during the exhibition.

Speaking to our correspondent, Mr. Dare Asobele the Founder of the NGO, disclosed that the funds actualized from the art exhibition and sales would be donated to charity organizations in Lagos, and there will also be book drives to public schools.

Cill soul performing music at the festival

He also thanked the organizing team, spear headed by Ms. Elizabeth Abubakar, for putting up a wonderful event on such short notice.

He further went on to say that this is only the beginning and that there are plans to continue with Tribe Fest in the coming years.

Mr. Dare Asobele, Founder of executives initiative imitating the classic Fela pose during the festival

He expressed sincere gratitude to sponsors and partners for their commitment towards the event and appealed to the public to be involved in charity causes. He also went on to thank everyone who contributed in one way or the other to the success of the event.

Ella Chikezie posing before an art work at the JJT park.

Tribe Fest is the latest addition to the Executives Initiative vision and an arts and cultural fest geared at celebrating the Nigerian cultural diversity and uniting Nigerians.

Happening Now!!!!

Life lessons: “No one owes you anything” – Ella Chikezie.


Few days ago I was talking to someone and he went on about how his father was very unsupportive and very stingy. How upon graduation from the University several years ago, he is yet to secure a decent job or any job at all. I asked why, and he responded saying that there are no jobs out there, or at least the type of job he wants. I asked what kind of job he wanted and he said a white collar job that he wouldn’t have to work 5 days in a week, and earn up to 300K monthly.

I looked at this guy, threw my head back and started laughing. Obviously, this guy seemed to be living under a rock! Like how do you explain such ridiculous expectations? And even if such jobs exist, aren’t they rare to find? Unsatisfied with this answer, I asked what he was doing to get closer to his dream job, and he said, “well you know, I’m just waiting for my father to talk to his friend who owns a good company where they pay so well.”

At this point, I was alarmed. Was this guy serious? Like that was it? Wowwwww. He went on to say that when he graduated, his father had given him 200k to start any business he wanted, but that he thought the money was too small and he felt he could double it by gambling. So off he went to gamble and he unfortunately, lost it all. He rounded off with saying, his father was a wicked man who had businesses yet refused to help him. After hearing this, I shook my head and told him plainly, “Guy you are stupid.”

Why do the average Nigerian, (Youths mostly) feel entitled? Like nobody owes you shit. Your uncles, aunties, friends, colleagues, brothers, sisters, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc. don’t owe you anything, and by anything I’m talking about financial/material things. Entitlement mentality is what make people covet other people’s stuff. My own is my own, and your own is your own.

If someone decides to help you as a friend, it’s a privilege, one you shouldn’t abuse. I’m often irritated when I hear someone say something like, “That my stingy rich uncle that cannot help anyone.” Bruh, how about you help yourself. Get on your ass and work. Really, there’s a sense of fulfilment that comes with owning your own.
If you are lucky enough to have people who help/support you, see it as a privilege not something you are entitled to, because no one owes you anything. It’s okay to ask for help when in need, but if you don’t get the help you seek, don’t get bitter about it.

By the way, the guy above is a 28 years old grown ass man, and he’s still waiting for his father’s friend to “epp” his life, and sadly, there are a lot of people who just like him, are waiting for someone to hand them the golden ticket. Fact is, no one would do it for you. The way to success is narrow and one potholed with challenges. Success is not for the faint hearted, you have to be intentional, strategic and consistent about it.