My top 5 recommended Christmas movies to watch this December, chances are you’ve seen 4 of them!

Hello darlings, It’s been a second!…actually, make that one year 😦 and I’ve missed all the action here. It’s strange that I’ve actually forgotten what it feels like to blog, so forgive me if my my blogging skills seem rusty. However, as writers, we would always find a way to turn on our computers, stare at those blank white screens and let the words flow.

Desk with various gadgets and office supplies. Computer, smart phone and stationery around the workplace. Flat lay.

It’s been a looooooong year! And I don’t want to take us down memory lane regarding everything that happened in 2020, so let’s just skip to the part where your girl became a Filmmaker (Copywriter, Screenwriter, Producer), Tv commercial creator, and very recently, opened her own media company, *FlyGrade Media*, whoop! whoop! Yeah it’s been such an interesting year.

It’s Christmas time and though Covid 19 has changed how the world currently operates, with the Lagos State Government breathing lockdown and curfew upon residents this festive period, one can only think of few creative ways to enjoy Christmas at home. For a large number of people like me, who can’t go out to party with family, friends, and colleagues, perhaps spending time cooking, watching tv, playing games, and sleeping may become their favorite pass time. I present 5 movies to watch this Christmas season.

Starting at number 1 is an all time fave and a Christmas classic “Home Alone”. I remember watching this film as a teenager and how every Christmas it would be shown on local tv stations in Lagos. This comic Christmas film revolves around the life of a mischievous toddler named Kevin. Eight-year-old Kevin is accidentally left behind when his family leaves for France. At first, he is happy to be in charge, but when thieves try to break into his home, he tries to put up a fight. This character played by Macaulay Culkin, is one both adult and children will have a good laugh watching.

Second on the list is “A Madea Christmas” and it’s a 2013 American Christmas comedy film directed, written, produced by and starring Tyler Perry. This is the first Christmas themed film from the writer-director and it follows the story of Madea when she accompanies Eileen to convince the latter’s daughter to come home for Christmas. Little do they know that the reason she hasn’t come home is because she has married a white man. The film is very comical and has some valuable lessons on family and love. If you are a fan of Tyler Perry, this is definitely a must watch.

At number three is “The Grinch” (also known as Dr. Seuss’ The Grinch) and it’s a 2018 American computer-animated Christmas fantasy comedy film produced by Illumination and distributed by Universal Pictures. Based on the 1957 book How the Grinch Stole Christmas! In this film, The Grinch grows increasingly annoyed with the ever-growing festive cheer that engulfs the village of Whoville. So, he teams up with his dog to ruin the festive spirit by being a spoilsport.

Number four on the watch list is “The Knight Before Christmas”, and it stars Vanessa Hudgens and Brad Krevoy. In this story, a medieval knight is transported to the present day, where he falls for a high school science teacher who’s disillusioned by love. The Knight Before Christmas is filled with themes on Love, Family, Happiness, and is recommended for both adult and children.

Last but not the least on my list is a short animated film titled “Angela’s Christmas”. Set in Ireland in the 1900s, this film tells a story of the power of family and the innocent desire of a child to keep her family safe during Christmas. It is one of those films that make you laugh, cry and reminds you what the true Christmas spirit is about – Love, Family, Friendship and giving.

So, let me know if you have seen any of these movies or would be seeing it. Also, let me hear what your favorite Christmas films are.

Happy Holidays Darlings!


I am now a filmmaker! plus how i made it to the 2019 accelerate filmmaker project.

I felt my eyes grow small, my cheeks puff and my lips arc like a plush parabola then after much deliberation on whether to write this post or not, i finally did!

– What Happiness Looks Like by Ella Chikezie.

Guys did you read my headline? Your girl is now a filmmaker! *insert crying/dancing emoji* Before i get too excited and start blabbing here, i want to shout out my friend Adaeze Feyisayo (Amethyst Saw), Creative blogger, Nigerian Gem and Newly Published Author of “Stab Love With Flower Stalks” for encouraging me to share my journey as an upcoming Nigerian filmmaker on the blog.


For a very long time i had written stories. First, as a child learning the basic colors of life, then as a teenager dealing with hormones/boy drama, and finally as a young adult battling mid-life crisis. I had always been a storyteller. I loved stories. Whether i was reading, writing, listening to or crafting them, i loved how they made me feel. Stories had a way of taking me by the hands and leading me through the emotional roller coaster journey of various characters. Stories also brought my imagination to life and afforded me border-less pass into different worlds, so i loved them.

Another thing i loved was the delicate and intense process of film-making. I remember in those days after watching a gripping epic movie like “Troy” or an adrenaline triggering movie like “X-men“, i would sit with myself and begin to ponder how a human mind could conjure such brilliance in words and action. How someone could embody a character, forget themselves and spontaneously discover a new self in that strange character. How technology could cast vivid image on my screen and still blur the lines between reality and an alternate universe. For me, that was magic! and it took a wizard (not Oz) to cast such spell on an ordinary audience like me! So i wanted that power. I needed to be transported beyond the level of mere audience and given a seat at the writer’s room and eventually my own “Director’s seat.” This was the beginning of my journey as a filmmaker.


They say if you want something you have to go get it. So when accelerate filmmakers project for aspiring filmmakers came up this year, with zero experience in film-making and determination rays to power 10, i made a short film on “patriotism”. Despite the challenges during the process of making this film, i am glad that i learnt some valuable lessons and my attempt luckily landed me among the 25 short listed accelerate filmmakers who would be sponsored to the accelerate TV academy this year.


Like anyone who is about to embark on a new journey, i am aware of the uncertainties ahead and i am prepared to face challenges as they come. For me, my journey as a filmmaker is one i am optimistic and excited about. Presently, i am focused on my creative process, on improving my craft and being the best at what i do. That is what matters for me and not the illusion of instant riches and fame that most people are deluded with at the beginning stage. Accelerate TV academy opens her doors to us next week and i look forward to my craft finding home there.


Ella Chikezie is a new generation award-winning poet, screenwriter and filmmaker. She believes in the dynamic power of visual storytelling and was recently shortlisted for the accelerate filmmaker’s project 2019. She hopes to inspire change and unite people within and across the globe by re-telling the African narrative and is very passionate about creating world-class movies and animation films. In January 2019, she scripted, performed and co-produced “The Colour of Struggle“, a three-minute spoken word poetry video highlighting the trials and triumphs that most Nigerians go through daily. She currently works as a screenwriter in one of Nigeria’s leading animation company, Orange vfx Studios and has in the past worked as an administrative officer for the Lagos International Poetry Festival.

Hangout with Ella Writes Naija

I had the time of my life last week with my friend, blogger, writer, product photographer, lawyer and amazing human. She has captured our beautiful moment in this post. Enjoy reading below!


Last Saturday, I hung out with my good friend Ella Chikezie (Poet, Content Creator, Script Writer, Blogger at Ella Writes Naija)

Ella and I met at LIPFEST’18. She coordinated Guest Welfare, a team I was a volunteer for. Since then our friendship has grown. I thoroughly enjoy her poems, content, art exhibition visits, literary event coverage, short films and our conversations. You can check out The Colour of Struggle, her spoken word and acoustic video.

Spending time with her gave me so much joy and inspiration!

She is one friend I really looked forward to hanging out with in Lagos. I was so happy we could have a food date, catch up and talk. We ate Abula at Amoke, Honey Foods on Bode Thomas, Surulere Lagos. Ella hadn’t eaten it in almost 15 years. During Lipfest she, I and another friend were supposed to eat it together…

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Event: An evening with Chigozie Obioma At PHLS Open Mic

On Friday, 29th of March 2019, saw an exciting evening at The Port Harcourt Literary Society (PHLS) Open Mic as guest author for the month, award winning author, Chigozie Obioma was hosted to a wonderful evening with poets, writers, artistes, bibliophiles, singers, literature lovers, friends, fans and family.

Cross section photo of attendees

The event kicked off at exactly 4pm with a press conference at the Port Harcourt Literary Society resident poet office. In attendance were notable personalities like Chigozie Obioma, Onyeka Nwelue, Chijoke Amu-Nnadi, Uzo Nwamara amongst others.

PHLS resident poet, Mr. Amu-Nnadi

Afterwards, the stage was officially opened with a special performance by vocalist, Orlee Chikezie as he debuted his hit single “Brave” – A song about depression.

Orlee Chikezie performing at PHLS Open Mic

Dance by Kangaroo Theatre, Poetry performances from Wayas Tekome, Robinson Blossom Kanaka, Boma Bliss, Chioma Igbebunam, Irra and others had people snapping their fingers till they hurt. To set the tone of the evening was a special song rendered by August Chucks which he dedicated as post birthday present to the resident poet, Amu-Nnadi.

Mr Onyeka Nwelue reading a book

A quick introduction of the special guests by Amu-Nnadi followed, then a minute silent for the late literary icon, Pa Gabriel Okara held. Thereafter, In conversation with Obioma Chigozie moderated by Dr. Obari Gomba had guests listening with rapt attention as witty questions met clever jab answers from the guest author.

L-R: Dr. Gomba and Chigozie Obioma

More poetry performances followed as the winner of the ‘The Fishermen book review writing competition’ emerged, – Michael Egbuja.

An Orchestra Of Minorities by Chigozie Obioma

refreshments went round and the final curtains were drawn for the day.

Selfie time: Members of Word Phantomz with Amu-Nnadi

Weekend Reads And Other Adventures

Read this beautiful review by and I’m gushing over here.

I was co-featured on the blog!



“The sensual caress of pink silk and fresh sheets.

The rustling fuschia petals hanging over love notes to self.

Your corner of the universe couldn’t be more comforting.”
By Amethyst Saw

Because books are the best breakfast. Current read off my March TBR- Law Textbooks. And some study reward chapters of Lie to Me Dan by Longrin Wetten.


Yesterday, I started and concluded writing a daring, erotic flash story for my manuscript. It’s achingly beautiful seeing ORANGE PETALS AGLOW GLASS SKIES take shape. All I can say is anticipate my debut collection!

BOOK REVIEW: GloriousSinner by Sherilee Gray

I also finished reading a romance ebook that isn’t on my TBR. Glorious Sinner, A Lawless Kings Novella by Sherilee Gray got me moaning and arrgh hopeful!

It’s the story of Stephanie who narrowly escaped death in an abusive marriage. How she picks herself up and works…

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This Is Not a Political Poem – By Efe Paul Azino


to another interesting Wednesday and the longest week in the history of Nigeria. All thanks to the Nigerian Electoral body (INEC) postponing the presidential elections, an action that saw an uproar across borders and on social networks last weekend.

As we continue to hold on to fragments of our faith in this country and work towards improving it’s flawed political system, I implore every Nigerian to stay conscious of what goes on in our nation. Read, watch, listen to news and be very informed no matter what they do to discourage, threaten or deter you from staying informed or involved with the elections. It is your right to vote and defend your votes. It is your right to demand accountability from the Government.

Front cover of Efe Paul Azino’s book – For broken men who cross often. Groundnut (@mrekpa)

To set the political tone and channel our political consciousness, I will be sharing a poem – “This is not a political poem” from the book, “For broken men who cross often” by Efe Paul Azino. This poem is a poem that will forever find home in Nigeria, as it addresses the issues of democracy and politics In a post truth era. The poet encourages the masses to fight for their rights and prophecies a revolution. The poem is written in satire where the poet calls out these men in the corridors of power but ends up saying it is not a political poem. The language is simple, and it is a honest work of art, one every Nigerian can relate to.

Related: Efe Paul Azino and Sam Dede hosted at the PHLS open mic

The Poem

This is not a political poem – by Efe Paul Azino

This is not a political poem.

It’s a poem about life,

about brothers, sisters, peace about strife.

It’s a poem that speaks

about what we go through as a people.

It’s a poem that seeks

to express that all men were once equal,

but some have become more equal than others,

so they loot and plunder,

dip their bowls into our collective purse,

fill their bellies,

and shit on the rest of us.

But this is not a political poem.

It’s a poem about life,

about brothers, about sisters, about peace, about strife.

It’s a poem about outrageous, fictitious budgets,

and the legislators who approve them.

It’s a poem about power, the interest of the people,

and the politicians who confuse them.

It’s a poem I wrote in the grips of emotion,

tears mingling with ink,

a poem I hoped will inspire my listeners to think.

No! Poem I prayed

will drive my listeners, the masses, to rage.

Mobilise them to march against men living in rocks,

against unhallowed chambers where politicians meet,

pretend to make laws, greet, eat,

pick their teeth with our collective destinies

But this is not a political poem,

It’s a revolution, it’s the evolution

Of a people refusing to suffer and smile no more,

a people determined to stand down the facade of a government

and it’s sham democracy,

a people willing to spill blood if need be.

But this is not a political poem,

It’s a poem about life,

about brothers, about sisters, about peace, about strife.

But if peace will cost us truth and justice,

then let it be known

That I’ll rather have strife, I’ll rather wage war.

These folks in Abuja are neither my brothers nor my sisters,

as for the bonds that binds us,

I trust it no more!

So meet me outside after the recital if you’re ready to fight,

get my number, give me a call,

if you’re sick of barking and now ready to bite.

But if they come looking for me Asking about what I said,

sniffing around for treasonable felony Tell them I raved and I ranted

I sang and I chanted

But I did not recite a political poem,

because this is not a political poem,

It’s a poem about life,

about brothers, about sisters, about peace, about strife.

Did you enjoy reading this post? Leave a comment below.


15 Valentine Love Quotes For a Loved One.

We all know Valentine is around the corner and once again it’s that time to assure, affirm and show your loved ones how much they mean to you. Spark some romance this season with the right words. If you want to make your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband, or fiancé feel special, sharing a thoughtful reminder of your feelings is a great start. Sending love messages isn’t cliché but an expression of your appreciation towards them.

I have collated some amazing love messages, poems and quotes online and from poets that you can send your loved ones this season. You may choose to be inspired by them and come up with something honest and creative or just copy and paste them. Whatever you decide, for the poems make sure to give credit when sharing. Thank you!

Online Romantic Messages For Her:

• There are two times that I want to be with you: Now and Forever.

• You have gripped my soul with a ferocity reserved for a castaway clinging to a raft in the middle of the ocean. If my soul is the raft, it is your hold that keeps me afloat. Don’t ever let go. I love you.

• If I could give you one thing in life, I’d give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then would you realize how special you are to me.

• There is an ocean in your eyes, and I can see myself inside of it. It’s impossible to measure the depths of the love that I feel for you.

• You wanna know who I’m in love with? Read the first word again.

Related: Love Is Not Valentine

Online Messages For Him:

• Since the time I’ve met you, I cry a little less, laugh a little harder and smile all the more, just because I have you, my life is a better place.

• You’re my paradise and I’d happily get stranded on you for a lifetime.

• Love teaches you until you learn, even if it takes long, it takes you where you belong!

• You bring sunshine into my life! You aren’t the sun, but you’re just as hot.

• When words aren’t enough to tell you how great you’ve been, remind me to come and kiss you.

Love Poems For Him and Her:


your heart, love

contains the world

to be loved by you

is to be loved

by everything

to have your heart

is to have


your heart, love

contains the world.

– Your Heart by Amu Nnadi

(Poem from a field of Echoes book)


my fingers are happiest

when they type

i love you

my lips, trembling

when they utter them.

– My Fingers by Amu Nnadi

(Poem from a field of Echoes book)


“As if you were on fire from within.

The moon lives in the lining of your skin.”

– Pablo Neruda

(100 love sonnets book)


“But I love your feet

only because they walked

upon the earth and upon

the wind and upon the waters,

until they found me.”

– Pablo Neruda


Our love isn’t a fairytale

those type with happily ever after

it isn’t candle light dinners

and scented love letters

it isn’t moonlight kisses

and shiny red roses.

it isn’t a stroll in the park

or pillow fights after dark.

It is how you nursed me to health

when that accident stole my legs

It was you cheering across that stage

when I read my valedictory page

It was being pushed down the aisle

while you stood at the altar with a smile

And when it got hard sometimes

It was you choosing to stay

It was you choosing to pray

It was us choosing us everyday

– Ella Chikezie. 2019©

Did you enjoy this post and what was your favorite quotes and poem? Let me know in the comment section.


How To Create A Vision Board

Welcome to February darlings! It’s a new month and as usual, there are so many expectations, goals and visions for the new month. Today, I’ll be taking you on a new journey to achieving your goals for the month and ultimately, the year. In case you are thinking it’s the second month of the year, and rather too late to set goals for the year/month, I want to tell you that it doesn’t matter! Yes, it doesn’t matter if this is the first quarter of the year or middle of the year, it’s never too late to start all over again, or even set new goals.

So last month I spent time with bloggers from the bloggers advocate and creatives and we each created a vision board. In case you missed it, you can read how I spent my weekend at the TBA vision board party and catch up on all we were up to there. Today, I’ll be sharing my knowledge of how to create a vision board as a way of smashing your goals and living your dream life!

A Vision Board

As I said earlier in my previous post, a vision board is a collage that is created using pictures and phrases from magazines, that focuses on specific goals and visions like career, finance, or love life. It is built on the basis of the law of attraction, which states that the more you continue to focus on specific goals, the more they gravitate towards you.

Work in progress: My Vision Board

In order to create a vision board here are the materials needed:

– A cardboard paper (could be any color, preferably white or black)

– Glue/Gum

– Magazines

– Shimmer/glitter glue (optional)

– Sticky notes

– A pair of scissors

– Beads (for decoration, optional)

– Music (for inspiration)

Creating a Vision Board:

Creating my vision board

Step 1:

Write down your goals on the sticky notes, you can group them into: spiritual goals, career, personal goals, relationship goals, academic goals, financial goals, etc.

Step 2:

Spread your cardboard paper on a plain surface.

Step 3:

Search the magazines for images or phrases that best represents what you hope to achieve and clip these carefully. For example, on my vision board, I put a car image to represent my intentions to learn to drive a car this year.

Step 4:

Apply glue/gum to the pictures and paste them on the cardboard paper making sure that they are well spaced out to avoid it looking clumsy. I suggest that you have a layout in mind before you start gluing. Also, it might be a good idea to put a strong image of your central intention in the middle of the board making sure to leave enough space for other images that may come to mind later.

Step 5:

You can sprinkle glitters on your vision board or decorate using tiny colored beads. Also, add the sticky notes with the written goals/vision on the board.

Step 6:

Clip your vision board on any place where you can easily see it. Preferably, on the wall of your bedroom, kitchen wall etc.

Showing off my vision board at the bloggers advocate vision board party in Lagos.

Please remember that as time moves on, our goals and desires change, so even if you made a vision board in the past, you may want to consider making another one. Also once you create a vision board to help define what you hope to achieve in life, you must work towards your goals but remember that things may not exactly happen the way we imagined.

Did you learn a thing or two from this post? Would you create your own vision board? Let me know in the comment section.


How I Spent My Weekend at The Bloggers Advocate Vision Board Party.

Happy New week darlings and welcome to the last week of January 2019. I am so elated that the month is ending after 10 years! Whew! Finally!

As is well known, the beginning of a new year to a lot of people is significant for making resolutions, writing down goals, and mapping out plans on how to smash these goals. Though for few people like me who naturally are spontaneous, and generally don’t like to get entangled in the conventional “new year, new me” trap, it can be such herculean task writing down our vision, let alone creating a vision board.

Related: 2018: Bigger and Better things to come

However, they say good things come to those who wait and better things come to those who prepare. And since I’ve decided to live a life of intentionality and not one of serendipity this year, I finally put down my vision and goals for the new year on a real, breathing, living vision board! *shakes tambourine* Thankfully, I had the bloggers advocate vision board party pop up last weekend and gleefully took advantage of it.

A vision board

A vision board is a collage that is created using pictures and phrases from magazines, that focuses on specific goals and visions like career, finance, or love life. It is built on the basis of the law of attraction, which states that the more you continue to focus on specific goals, the more they gravitate towards you.

My vision board

The Bloggers Advocate Vision Board Party

This wonderful event held last Saturday afternoon at Illupeju area of Lagos mainland and brought together 12 amazing people, both bloggers and creatives from different parts of Nigeria in a cosy and clean space where we shared intimate conversations, talked about our goals, challenges, and lessons from previous year and the new year, and also created a physical vision board for 2019.

We had an amazing time sharing, interacting, learning, creating, and networking with each other at the event. Our host, Alice and Tofunmi of the bloggers advocate, gave us a worthwhile and life changing experience.

We were also treated to finger foods, confectionaries, drinks and introduced to the yummy world of Mr. Ekpa (New fave alert! Review coming soon)

Finally, as we hugged goodbye we did so with our hands full of goodies specially packaged in a custom made tote bag by Mabeli Inspired

Some of the goodies we received

After everything, I left feeling inspired, renewed, with clarity of purpose and confidence. So, if you wish to smash your goals this year, I suggest that you not just write down your goals, but put it on a vision board and go ahead to slay those goals!

Self styled and ready to slay my 2019 Goalsssss!

By the way if you are in Abuja and you wish to enjoy similar experience like me, the bloggers advocate is hosting a vision board party this Saturday in Abuja! You can attend and thank me later 😉

What are you waiting for? Go ahead and get those goals this year! I’m rooting for you darlings!

With bloggers, Sarah Okolo and Dami from the TBA Tribe.

Would you like to create a vision board or attend a vision board party? Let me know in the comment section

Book Review: The Sin In My Blackness by Nkateko Masinga.

Hello! My black sisters and brothers, how proud are you of your colour?

So, last weekend during my trip to pop beach club, where I had the most relaxing time away from the craziness of work and Lagos. I finally got the opportunity to finish reading one of the books I purchased from last year’s Lagos International Poetry Festival guest, Nkateko Masinga. I’d be reviewing her book, ‘The Sin In My Blackness’ today and I’ll be sharing an excerpt from the book too.


The sin in my blackness is a chapbook collection of twenty-five poems, twenty-three of them which are written by South African born Author, Nkateko Masinga while two are featured poem of her friends Penelope Makgati and Zuki Mqeke. This book deals with the themes of Xenophobia, Black Consciousness, Love and Loss. The Author also appraises Warshan Shire, Tapiwa Mugabe, Nayyirah, and Yrsa Daley-Ward as her source of inspiration.

This book is an honest work that encourages black people to love themselves and be comfortable in their own skin. Also, during a dark time when some black South Africans were said to kill other black foreigners whom they believed were ‘stealing’ their jobs, Nkateko through her poems, rendered her voice against this gruesome act. As seen in one of her poems from the book, “Betrayal”

Betrayal, a poem by Nkateko Masinga

The language is simple and easy to understand. The book also features aesthetic drawings by Thierry Baranzika that makes one conjure clear image in mind. Nkateko uses imagery and metaphors in the most beautiful manner. The book is a pride of Africa that asserts who we are as Africans and the manner in which words are crafted makes it emotionally compelling.

Authors Note:

According to Nkateko, “many articles have been written about the desirability (or lack thereof) of black skin. It breaks my heart that such conversations even need to happen and hence I worry about my unborn black children but I believe one cannot equate desire with value. The fact that something is not desired by someone does not make it any less valuable. I have found beauty in blackness that I am willing to defend, a beauty that I will not allow to be contained or stifled. I refuse to succumb to the notion that I must hide my hair, bleach my skin or make apologies for the way I sound when I speak. There is no shame or sin in my blackness.”

Authors Biography:

Nkateko Masinga is a South African author, publisher, spoken word artist, theatre actress, TEDx speaker, World Economic Forum Global Shaper and 2018 Mandela Washington Fellow. She was born in Mamelodi and completed her schooling at Glenstantia Primary School, The Glen High School and Dansa International College. She went on to study Medicine (MBChB) at the University of Pretoria and was selected to be a member of the Golden Key International Honour Society for her outstanding academic achievements. In 2018 she moved to the United States of America to study Civic Leadership at Wagner College in New York as part of the Mandela Washington Fellowship for Young African Leaders, the flagship

program of the Young African Leaders Initiative (YALI).

In July 2018, South African publication News24 named Nkateko one of the ‘100 Young Mandelas of The Future’ in celebration of what would have been former president Nelson Mandela’s 100th birthday, an accolade created to honour 100 young South Africans who embody the characteristics that Mandela was known for. Nkateko is the author of three poetry collections: ‘The Sin In My Blackness’ (2015). ‘A War Within The Blood’ (2016), and ‘While The World Was Burning’ (2017). She is the founder and managing director of NSUKU Publishing Consultancy, a 100% black-owned company which provides African writers with

access to information and services regarding publishing books.

Her written work is widely celebrated and is published locally and internationally.

A poem: “The sin in my Blackness.”

My blackness is red sirens,

Gunshots two blocks

From your block of flats.

Women on the street in their gowns

Asking “What happened, what happened?”

My blackness mimics tragedy in small towns.

My blackness cannot be contained.

You tried all those years ago and failed.

Look, your hands are stained.

My blackness is flashing lights,

Red tape outside your house.

Orange cones on the road that leads to reconciliation.

But you walk here and find me waiting,

Burdened with the weight of waiting.

But you never come close enough,

So I have to ask:

Does my blackness offend you?

I mean, the colour of my skin,

The texture of my hair…

Do these things offend you?

Do they make you question what God was trying to do

When He created me, as opposed to you?

Does my blackness make you get on your feet

And deliberately choose another seat

Or another place to eat?

Tell me this:

When we meet in town,

Does my blackness earn me a frown

Or even worse, a half-hearted lopsided smile

That lasts a while and disappears?

Because you see, for years

I struggled with my blackness too.

I made alterations to it like you do

When you change my name

From Nkateko to Kate.

I tried to plait my hair

I plaited it tightly against my scalp

Like a forced hug.

Then I covered it with hair

That looks like yours:





And then I realized that your only fault

Is not that you do not look like me

But that you showed me the sin in my blackness.

– Nkateko Masinga.